so, femmecon is coming to baltimore. they will be meeting / partying only a few blocks away. that’s cool i guess, maybe i’ll go get a drink with everybody. but i have to admit, i don’t really get it. by it, i mean why the hell folks would travel across the across the country & pay $60-$100 to attend a femme-specific conferen$$$e in order to “explore, discuss, dissect, and support queer femme as a transgressive, gender-queer, stand-alone, and empowered identity” when you can be talking about the underlying issues behind almost all “femme problems” - heterosexism / homophobia & misogyny - in your communities for free. i’m not judging, i totally get that “femme” is really important to many folks. i guess i’ve just never personally prioritized gender expression as a focal point for community-building. i mean, i’m feminine-presenting and deal with “invisibility” shit all the time. but, given how shitty this world is to almost all women and queers, a narrow focus on “femme” alone seems like the lowest priority. i guess it upsets me on some level how femmecon-este stuff is almost unanimously seen as “progressive” amongst queers whereas self-selecting / non-gender essentialist “women’s spaces” which focus on healing from the violence that is pretty much inevitably if you have, at some point, been read as female are consistently bashed across the board.
i guess it’s cool that they have a scent policy though.