Anonymous asked: "lolz" what bores me are condescending cis feminists who talk shit on other people's bodily practices/choice of partners. It must be nice to have a coherent body/desire that you can fit into the neat little category of "lesbian." Maybe queers won't date you because you're all too eager to employ casual essentialism that completely ignores the reasons why trans/non-binary folks would prefer partners who don't date "only ladies." Queers are skeptical of lesbian feminists for a reason..
oh hey, another anonymous blogger who can’t stand me!
i’ve written so much about challenging gender essentialism in lesbian communities / why “women” doesn’t and shouldn’t just mean cis / etc. etc. etc. i can easily go back and cut and paste everything and apologize or whatever, but guyzzzzz. that was an asinine rant i wrote after a friend wrote me fbook chat messages about her dating problems. I’m not policing people’s identities here. believe it or not, that blog entry had nobody to do with any of you.
but you know, it does say a lot that you can’t talk about your friend’s lady problems anymore without having to qualify what lady means or disclose that you have privilege or something. god forbid women use their blogs to actually vent. god forbid i write an entry that isn’t my final word or a political statement.
(note - lady means anybody who identifies as a lady. end of story. and there is nothing wrong with only being attracted to certain genders).